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Tool Tuesday: Candle wax (Nobody gets your wax)

Here is a new offering! Today is Tool Tuesday! Each Tuesday I will provide the complete description of one of Eloheim and The Council’s tools. Today we have “Candle wax (Nobody gets your wax)”

This tool is based in an analogy: You are a candle. You can share your flame—your emanation—but you cannot give away your wax. Never, never, never, never. If you give away your wax, you give away yourself, and who you are is diminished.

If you’re a candle, you can light numerous other candles with your flame, but nobody gets your wax. On some level, we see you energetically very drained because your wax has not been precious to you. That core amount of what you need to make you go. That core amount of attention, of rest, of nourishment, of peace, of quiet, of meditation, of walking, dancing, whatever it is that you know feeds you as a person and keeps you whole. You’ve been letting pieces of those things go to other people because you thought, “Well, if they’re happy, I’ll be happy.” Or, “If they’re happy, at least I won’t be so distracted by their needs.” When the truth is, you’ve gotten yourself drained and you’ll get further drained.

So, you can step back and set boundaries. And boundaries don’t mean: “I don’t love you anymore.” Boundaries mean: “I have to love myself first, so I have extra love to give. I can’t give from this place. I have to give from a whole place.” Because if you keep giving from weakness, eventually you have nothing left. But if you set boundaries, you rejuvenate yourself.

The first step is to set boundaries so that the people you’re giving your wax to don’t get any more. And they usually throw fits, so you have to deal with that. They’ll call you selfish, typically. Or they’ll call you a bitch.

Without being in service mentality, you’re offering something extraordinary. Because you’re not doing it for other people, you’re doing it for yourself and there’s just overflow. It’s the candle. The candle is lit and the flame is giving off light. It gives off light whether you hide it in a closet or you set it on your windowsill. And when you love yourself well, it’s like putting the candle on the windowsill and the people who are driving by see the light as well.

You can give your flame to anyone because it still burns even when you share it with others, but when you start giving your wax away it’s all over.

Veronica writes:
This was one of the early tools and it is still very much in use. It is so very easy to get pulled into “service” and siphon off your wax. I know what that feels like and I am not going back there! It is such a joy to focus on emanating my truth and knowing that that is all the “service” I need to do.

Habitual response of codependency felt seamless until I heard this tool. My sense of global responsibility burdened me in a way I thought was my identity as a “responsible person.” I felt guilty about not being able to help all women feel safe, for instance. Imagining myself as a being who has limited physical shape (the candle as my body) with unlimited consciousness and intention (the flame), I saw immediately that the love and attention I choose to offer a situation flows from a source that is constantly renewable. When I have used as much of my physical energy to support my intentions as I have available, I must rest without shame. Actually, to rest with relish, enjoying the dreams that replenish insights and creativity.
—Margy Henderson

The candle wax tool is very good for me as I have a tendency to go out of my way to help others, sometimes to great lengths. So, the idea of sharing my flame and not my wax made very good sense to me. It’s helping me to be crystal clear on when I may be stepping over the line and when I need to reel it back in.

For more Eloheim and The Council tools, see our book The Choice for Consciousness, Tools for Conscious Living

GUEST AUTHOR: Kate – Why is this film in my camera?

Hello everyone! Today we have the third installment in my continuing Guest Author series. You can read the first two posts here and here.

Today Kate tells us about her journey with Eloheim and her favorite Eloheim tool: Why Is This Film In My Camera?

When I first came across Veronica Torres and her work with Eloheim and the Council, I knew right away that the information that was coming through her was what I was looking for. I had been on a spiritual path for many years and was familiar with “the talk” but at this point, I was looking for concrete tools to help me “walk the talk.” I wanted to take my spiritual “beliefs” and put them into action.

Eloheim is all about the tools so this was perfect! Each tool (and there’s a full tool box of them!) has been incredibly helpful to me, but the one I use every single day is Why is this film in my camera? Whenever there’s anything going on in my life that I don’t want to be there, it’s automatic now for me to ask myself, “Why is this film in my camera? or why am I creating this? What subconscious beliefs (or static as Eloheim calls it) am I holding on to, that are sabotaging me from creating the peaceful, drama free, abundant, healthy and absolutely fabulous life that I really want?”

I love this tool because it brings everything right back to me where I have control over my own beliefs and my own responses. Pointing fingers outwardly simply doesn’t bring me any satisfaction anymore. In fact, it feels like a complete waste of my time and energy now to indulge in the dramorama. It took awhile to move away from it and occasionally, where a belief is really firmly entrenched, I find myself back in the blame groove for a few seconds but very quickly now, I’m able to recognize what I’m doing and switch back to asking myself, “Why this film is in my camera?” It takes me out of victim mode and puts me firmly in the driver’s seat.

Working with Veronica, Eloheim and the Council for the past year and a half has been dramatically life changing for me I love being a part of the Wednesday meetings and more often than not, the topics for the evening are synchronistically, exactly what I myself have been dealing with that particular week. Through the weekly gatherings we’re encouraged to take the next step, and the next and the next and always with a “tool” to help us navigate our way. There’s a great combination of fun and laughter, as well as a sincerity and respect for the process. It’s down to earth, practical, hands on spirituality which suits me perfectly!

Kate Iredale

Thanks Kate! Why is this film in my camera? is a tool I haven’t thought of in awhile. Thanks for the reminder! That tool was the star of the show during the 10-20-10 meeting. Here are the Girls talking about it:

One of the ways to love and appreciate yourself well is that when you look out and you see the movie screen and you like what you see and it feels good and it’s conscious and it’s high-vibrational and supportive of growth and maybe it’s even fun … love yourself for having put that film in your damn camera. Hello? Do you hear what we’re saying? When the flowers on the side of the road are beautiful, love yourself for putting that film in your camera. Yes? OK? Remember, it can’t happen in your world unless it’s true in you. So you can appreciate yourself, appreciate yourself, for what you see in your world.

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