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TOOL TUESDAY: Concurrent and Cascading Fears

It’s Tool Tuesday. Every Tuesday I share one of Eloheim’s tools for spiritual growth.

Today’s Tool is: Concurrent and cascading fears, two different patterns that fears follow in response to triggers.

With cascading fears, the trigger is followed by a train of fears that are similar. A classic example is when somebody cuts you off on the freeway. You react with, “Didn’t he see me?” Then the train of cascading fears starts to form. You might next move to the pain you felt when you were “not seen” and passed over for promotion, then to the suffering you experienced when you were “not seen” and not invited to the prom. Before you are even aware of it, you’re reliving being five years old and upset because someone took your wagon because they didn’t “see you” playing with it.

Cascading fears connect experiences in the present to experiences scattered throughout your history. Not only does this result in you suffering over and over again, but it never allows you to actually attend to what the initial trigger was.

During this cascading fear pattern, you may hear the voice of an authority figure from your childhood narrating the entire sequence. That is a way to alert yourself to the pattern.

You tend to have “favorite” cascading fear patterns that you turn to even if the initial triggers are quite varied. When you catch yourself in this fear pattern, gently remind yourself to come back to the moment, choose to stay in the moment, and allow yourself to become more conscious about your reaction to the initial trigger.

In the case of concurrent fears, the trigger is followed by a train of fears on completely different subjects, each of the fears pertaining to your current experiences rather than going into past experiences.

This pattern is typically used when you are dealing with the top triggers: Money, sex, job, housing, relationships, health. You find yourself triggered by one of these and rather than becoming conscious of the trigger and using it for your growth, you jump to the next subject. You take the triggered state with you and find something to be triggered about with the next subject.

This jumping from subject to subject and trigger to trigger is full of suffering. It makes it very difficult to actually transform any one situation. You never stay with it long enough to change it. Concurrent fears can leave you feeling like your life is full of problems and you are unable to cope with any of them.

As an example of concurrent fears, let’s say you’re worried about your marriage. Thinking about your marriage is too triggering, so you jump to thinking about your job. You think about your job until that is too triggering, then you jump to worrying about your heath, and on it goes. Nothing ever changes. Even the thoughts you have about each of these subjects are unchanging. You simply use the hamster-wheel mind to continue to run in circles. Suffering is the result.

The key is to pick one subject and stick with it long enough to bring consciousness to it. The pattern will try to draw you away from that one subject, but choose and choose again to stick with it, past the discomfort you are feeling.

You are looking for new information, but new information doesn’t come from rehashing old thoughts, it comes from insight. When you apply consciousness to one subject you can actually be in the moment with it long enough to get to the “aha.”
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Veronica writes:
I think this tool gets the award for the tool with the most awkward name. We never did come up with a more clever way to say it. This one is really helpful in alerting you to patterns of habitual fears. I don’t know how many times I have done that: trigger in the moment and all of a sudden I’m five again thing. Being aware of these patterns really helped me change them.

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For me, this tool combines well with “What is true now?” tool. When I find myself spinning off into the past or projecting into the future, I can stop myself short if I just remind myself that what is true now has nothing to do with either the past or the future. It’s especially obvious to me when I’m worried about money and just switch over to worrying about my health, with no break in between! I’ll know that these concurrent fears are just my hamster-wheel thinking taking me out of the moment, where my conscious self would actually rather be.
—Claire


If you would like to read more of our Tool Tuesday entries, use these links:
Candle Wax (Nobody Gets Your Wax)
Who Answers the Door?
Velcro – Don’t Have Velcro For That
Preferences / Judgments
Shovel or Ladder

There are more Eloheim and The Council tools in our books:
The Choice for Consciousness, Tools for Conscious Living
The Homo Spiritus Sessions

TOOL TUESDAY: Shovel or Ladder

Today is Tool Tuesday! Shovel or ladder

Every Tuesday I share one of Eloheim and The Council’s tools for spiritual growth.

The choice for consciousness is challenging, but habitual response is a pit of pain.

You get a shovel or a ladder, it’s your choice to dig yourself in deeper or to climb up the ladder and out of the pit. The shovel is repeating habit, it’s you not being willing to say, “What the hell is going on here in me? Not with him, not with her, not with the boss, not with the kids, not with the bank, not with the credit card statement but within me. What is going on in me?”

“Am I going to dig myself in deeper out of fear, guilt, lack, victim hood, or am I going to put my hand on the ladder and say something has to change? And am I going to keep climbing the ladder even when my pit partners look at me and say, ‘What are you doing? Where are you going? Who do you think you are? You’re getting too big for your britches!’” and all those other lines that they might give you. The ladder isn’t just a hop. You’re so far down in these pits of habitual response that you need one of those tall ladders, but the beauty is your ladder is tall enough.

You figure it out by putting one foot in front of the other and continuing to make the choices that say, “Habit is not who I am.” Because when habit gets to tell you who you are, the scenery doesn’t change. Do you want a shovel or a ladder? We will not give you shovels. But we have loads of ladders of all different sizes, shapes, and lengths and we even know how to make them taller. So if you get dug down in there, don’t think you’re ever lost. You’re not ever lost in the pit of habit. You simply have to keep making the choice.

We’re standing there cheering you on. Just lift your foot. We know it’s challenging to break habits, but it will get easier. If you want your life to change, you need to choose and choose again to climb the ladder of consciousness.

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Veronica writes:
When Eloheim first came up with this one, I was blown away. It is classic Eloheim, funny and practical. I picture them standing at the top of the hole saying, “We have ladders for you!” There is something so comforting about the image of them standing in the light looking at us down in the dark just waiting for us to reach up for the ladder they are lowering.

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When dealing with a coworker who flips into hysteria/doom and gloom thinking when confronted with a problem, I find it helpful to use the Shovel (are you really sure you want to dig that great big huge hole for yourself?) / Ladder (don’t you think we might actually get a better overview of this problem from up here?) approach. I used to call this the “Take the noose off your neck and get down from that chair” maneuver. But I like shovel/ladder now because it actually offers an alternative way of thinking about the situation rather than just a plea for different behavior.
—Rene


If you would like to read more of our Tool Tuesday entries, use these links:
Candle Wax (Nobody Gets Your Wax)
Who Answers the Door?
Velcro – Don’t Have Velcro For That
Preferences / Judgments

There are more Eloheim and The Council tools in our books:
The Choice for Consciousness, Tools for Conscious Living
The Homo Spiritus Sessions

July, 2011

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TOOL TUESDAY: Preferences / Judgments

Today is Tool Tuesday! Today’s tool is Preferences / Judgments

Judgment is not the same as preference. Judgment is the belief that you have to have a position against something in order to have a position preferring something. So, all of a sudden the choice between chocolate and vanilla must become, “Chocolate is a good flavor and vanilla is a bad flavor, so I am going with chocolate because that’s the good flavor,” instead of just saying, “I have a preference for chocolate.”

The interesting thing about that judgment thing is that you’re an immortal, infinite soul that chooses to have every experience you can manage. If you set out a lot of judgments and you start saying that vanilla’s wrong, then when it comes around time to experience vanilla you have to deal with the baggage of already assigning it as “wrong.” It’s always nice to just not put extra baggage on things that you’ll probably get around to wanting to experience someday. It’s also quite helpful to limit the amount of baggage (static) about anything you are experiencing.

Most of the time, we see that you had to make something wrong — sometimes VERY wrong — in order to set a preference because you weren’t feeling strong enough to just say, “No” as a complete sentence.

When you are new to boundaries and preferences you will sometimes believe that you have to get really worked up in order to use them. Actually, when you discover “What is true now?,” you can set boundaries and state preferences from a very calm place.

Keep in mind that there is a damned good reason for having a preference, which is: You’re a soul experiencing the physical form in a free-will zone. So, if you don’t have some preferences, what the heck is the point of being here in the first place? Not very much that we can see. Having preferences is the one of the main events!

Someone once said to us, “Well, if we are infinite and immortal, aren’t we going to do everything?” And we said yes, but you do them in an order. There’s an order to it. In a linear sense, there’s an order to it. Where today you decided to eat chocolate and tomorrow you’re going to decide to eat vanilla. Even if you’re immortal and infinite, you’re still deciding right now to be here instead of being someplace else. Preference. Choice. Free will. You don’t need to have something be wrong in order to have something else be what you want to do.

Coming from judgment is low-vibrational. It takes a lot of energy to stay invested in a judgment. It can be difficult to change your mind because you are so invested energetically in the judgment. Sometimes your identity can even be wrapped up in a judgment, which makes it that much harder to change. Judgments don’t serve you, on so many levels.

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Veronica writes:
Another tool to help you realize that you get to choose. This one helps me realize when I am actually choosing and when I am running an unconscious habit, which shows up as a judgment. I like vanilla and chocolate ice cream so this example is perfect for me. It really is expressing a preference in the moment rather than deciding on a right/wrong.

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This tool has whittled down my list of people, situations, and things that I have judgments around and helps me realize how many judgments came through societal conditioning. Preferences allow for choice through fascination and true passion of my life’s purpose. It brings me closer to the relaxed feeling of contentment and fulfillment.
—Deb


If you would like to read more of our Tool Tuesday entries, use these links:
Candle Wax (Nobody Gets Your Wax)
Who Answers the Door?
Velcro – Don’t Have Velcro For That

There are more Eloheim and The Council tools in our books:
The Choice for Consciousness, Tools for Conscious Living
The Homo Spiritus Sessions

TOOL TUESDAY: Velcro, Don’t have Velcro for that!

It’s Tool Tuesday! Today’s entry – Velcro, Don’t have Velcro for that!

Velcro has two different sides, a loop side and a hook side, and it only works if you have both sides. We want you to not have Velcro for the judgments of others. Don’t have Velcro on your side. Just don’t have it.

You have silver hair. If we said to you: “Wow, you have ugly black hair.” Your response would be, “I don’t have black hair.” You have no Velcro for that judgment.

If, however, we said, “Wow, you have ugly silver hair,” it might be more challenging to not have Velcro for our judgment. But, it’s still your choice. Use your free will to decide.

Another important place to look for Velcro is in your judgments about yourself. When you stop having inner Velcro for your inner judgment about yourself, it makes it much easier to not have Velcro for the judgments of others.

This tool is very important. Ask yourself, “Do I have Velcro—even empathically—do I have Velcro for it?” And you do. But you don’t need to. Now that you’re alerted to that, you can re-evaluate whether or not you want to have Velcro on any subject.

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Veronica writes:
As a sensitive, psychic, empathic, channel, etc., I was a walking Velcro strip. Not only in the ways that Eloheim describes here, but with the feelings of others. I really got this tool and have used it countless times. When I realize I am picking up on others’ energy I can say, “Don’t have Velcro for that.” And then shift to What is true now? to check in with what I am actually experiencing.

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Velcro is a nifty tool. I use it to bring awareness of issues that need my immediate attention. It’s fun to see where issues that once had Velcro no longer do.
—Murster


If you would like to read more of our Tool Tuesday entries, use these links:
Candle Wax (Nobody Gets Your Wax)
Who Answers the Door?

There are more Eloheim and The Council tools in our books:
The Choice for Consciousness, Tools for Conscious Living
The Homo Spiritus Sessions

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