One of Eloheim’s core (pun intended) teachings involves the core emotion. Your core emotion is usually a single emotion or fear that permeates all aspects of your life. Examples include: fear of the unknown, fear of not being seen or heard, fear of love. Core emotions are as varied as the people having them. Your core emotion is at the root of every (positive or negative) decision you make. Eloheim teaches that working with your core emotion is the fastest way to bring consciousness and personal healing into your life.
Determining your core emotion is fairly easy when you have Eloheim’s help. I intend to ask about determining your core emotion when you don’t have the direct assistance of Eloheim. I will post about that soon.
This is one of the first posts I added to this blog and I felt it was time for it to be seen again. The core emotion continues to be my most powerful teacher and a review of this material, the first time Eloheim ever spoke of it, seemed timely. I find it so interesting that these themes work so well with the information about the Law of Attraction that Eloheim shared last week. We have a meeting tonight and I will start posting clips from it tomorrow.
There is the conscious level, that is the level that says “I have cancer”, that is the level that says “You done me wrong”, that is the level that says “You cut me off you ***hole”. That is the conscious level.
Then comes the unconscious level where you have a reaction. It just happens. It is the habitual response that we have talked about. So you get cut off on the freeway and you get angry. Right? You start saying colorful things. Automatically, often without thought and typically as a default reaction (one that you have had before). Then comes the tricky bit and this is the part where normally people get stuck. We like to call it the camouflage layer. This is the layer that therapists spend lots of time in. You can see it as sort of a gray foggy space.
What happens is: You get cut off on the freeway, now you are angry. Then you start to spin. You start to spin on all the other times you have been angry. You start to spin on all the other people you are angry at. And the other such and such and so and so and so forth. You are in this layer and you spend a lot of time there. You know how you can say, “my day is ruined now!” Why? You didn’t get in a car wreck. It is because your habitual response kicked in and you plopped down into the camouflage layer.
And now you are not just angry at the ***hole on the freeway, you are angry at your boss, you’re angry at your parents, you’re angry at the judge that told you that you had to pay the parking ticket. And you find that the emotion spreads out and you follow that emotion from one thing that made you angry to the next to the next. Or one thing that hurt you to the next to the next. Or one thing that offended you to the next to the next. And what you are doing is creating a web and you are connecting all of these things and giving it more and more and more power. It becomes more and more offensive or angry. And it is not that you are just angry at somebody cutting you off on the freeway you are angry because when you were five somebody took your Tonka Truck away.
This is what our friend Eckhart (Eckhart Tolle, author The Power of Now) talks about when he tries to keep you in the present so you don’t spend a whole bunch of time in camouflage.
But let’s take it to the next level. The next level lies below the camouflage. This is the level that therapy doesn’t typically take you too. Because therapy wants to take you down the history of your life and they want to explore why when you get cut off on the freeway you remember your Tonka Truck from five years old. Right?
Then you remember the time you got stood up for prom and then you remember it all and you spend all your money and you cry every week. And you feel a little better until the next time you get cut off on the freeway. But underneath that there is a place. And this is the place that we want to take you. Underneath the camouflage is the prime emotion that is involved. It is usually very simple, usually very clear and absolutely understandable when you experience it. So under the camouflage what is this driving emotion?
You get cut off on the freeway, perhaps and we are just going to use this as an example, really what happens is that your underlying fear deep deep down is I AM NOT SEEN. No one sees me.
So if you take the order of events in reverse, don’t start with getting cut off on the freeway. Start with “I believe I am not seen.” “That is why I got stood up for my prom date. That is why someone can take my truck. Because I am not being seen as someone who has a truck. That is why someone can cut me off on the freeway, because they don’t see me and that makes me angry.”
You see what we are showing you? When you have an experience that generates a strong emotion, don’t get stuck in camouflage. Because when you go deeper than the camouflage and say “truly what I am feeling is that I am not seen” that is the layer that can be healed.
So you can say, “of course I am seen” I have this group of people, I have a family, I have friends, I have a career, I am seen. So that you can nurture yourself on that level, and you can heal yourself on that level. So that the next time you get cut off on the freeway you say “Wooh, that guy is in a hurry” because it is not intricately connected to this prime moving emotion anymore, you break that circuit. So instead of spending the next week being angry about being cut off on the freeway, you have all that time and space to do other things.
And there is another little side benefit of this. When the guy cuts you off on the freeway and you say, “that ***hole” you are not making the world a better place. But when the guy cuts you off on the freeway and you immediately think, “wow he must be in a hurry. Or I bet he has a lot on his mind today.” What are you doing? You are sending him love. You are saying “I hope you get there safely, it is ok that you went in front of me, I know that you need to get there. I know that you have a lot on your mind. I hope you figure it out. “ You can send him a little blessing. And don’t think that doesn’t help.
You have disconnected from your own deep fear, but you have done it in a healthy way. You haven’t just swallowed it and taken it and said, “well I guess it is ok that he cut me off, he must be in a hurry.” That is not the same thing. (laughter)
This tool is going to help you because it is going to allow you to live in a place that is real. It is allows you to skip the ego’s delusions. Remember we said that you don’t fight the ego you ignore the ego. Remember we talked about this. It is like a plant, if you don’t water it, it dies.
How better to ignore the ego (because the ego is that camouflage layer) than to just push through it to what is true. And what this takes is your willingness to examine yourself and be honest. Because it is more fun, easier, and lazier to say “***hole” than it is to say, ‘What the heck is going on here for me?” and then to honestly say to yourself “Whoa, I don’t feel that I am seen” and then be with that.
See, the key is be with the emotion that you find down there, sit with it. This process doesn’t have to take forever, it can be instantaneous, you can teach yourself to go immediately from the trigger to realizing you are in the core emotion. The more you work with these core emotions the less they effect you over and over again. As you heal the core emotion, it is like healing the trunk of the tree and the branches get healed as well. It happens quickly because you are working on a level of absolute effectiveness. You are not in the distraction of the ego, you are not in the camouflage layer, you’re in a place that actually has the chance to affect you in a profoundly deep and instantaneous manner.
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